Valentine’s Day in the Preacher’s House

February 13, 2013

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by Dr. Bob Rogers


I always thought that I was romantic. But having two attractive young daughters has taught me that I have a lot to learn about romance. (Sorry, guys, they’re both married.) According to my daughters, there are three different levels in a boy-girl relationship: 

1. “Talking.”  If you’re “talking,” it means you’re interested in each other, but you’re not committed to being boyfriend and girlfriend. You’re free to talk to others. A lot of this “talking” is actually “typing,” because they often do it by texting on their cell phones.

2. “Going out.” This means a commitment to being boyfriend and girlfriend. My generation called this “going steady,” but today’s teens call it “going out.” The only problem is if they don’t have a driver’s license, they aren’t really going anywhere. Personally, I think they should call this “talking a lot more,” or “texting a lot more,” because that’s what they’re really doing.

3. “Dating.” This is for older youth who have driver’s licenses. If you’re older, you can go straight from “talking” to “dating.” Also, to further complicate things, you can be “dating” but not yet committed to “going out.” So in this scenario, you actually ARE going out, yet you are not officially “going out.”

To my daughters’ list of three levels, I would add a fourth level. If God leads you to Mr. Right, then at the proper time, you should move to a fourth level in a relationship.

4. “Married.” This is what happens when you decide to go out permanently. I’m reminded of a conversation I once overheard in a flower shop just before Valentine’s Day. Some young men were in the shop, talking about their constantly changing girlfriends. An older man spoke up and said, “What you guys need to do is stop buying at the news stand and get a subscription.”

The Bible says, “Rejoice in the wife of your youth” (Prov. 5.18); and, “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord” (Prov. 18.22). That’s why I’m happy for my daughters. And I pray that they don’t forget to keep dating, and going out, and talking as important to their marital relationships. I know that if they do, their subscription will never lapse.

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Johnathan Pritchett

Indeed. I do not regret getting married at 23. 13 years later and happier than ever. I enjoy talking, dating, and going out with her as often as grandma and other babysitters will allow. :)

The texting thing…not so much. The typing I do for papers and on the internet is plenty.

The silliest thing I see with young couples these days is them sitting next to one another, each on their phones…texting other people or worse, perhaps even texting one another. Either way, I don’t get it. The phone is the last thing I care about dealing with when out with my wife.. Unless an emergency occurs, I prefer it never making an appearance.

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Hi Dr. Bob
Good article..I find it useful because i am just single and I’m quite looking for my God’s will. Being able to read this article is such an amazing way to make me understand why constant communication, going out and dating is such an amazing way to keep the fire burning between couples..

thanks for your article Dr. :)

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