Braxton’s List

September 8, 2014

Braxton’s List
Submitted by, Dr. Emir Caner
President |Truett-McConnell College

written by Rev. Bucky Kennedy, Senior Pastor at  First Baptist Church, Vidalia, GA and Board Chairman of Brewton-Parker College

Braxton Caner was a young man who had once read that if you listed your goals you had a better than 90% chance of meeting them, versus less than 50% if you didn’t. Braxton had academic, athletic, and spiritual goals that he wrote down and pursued. At the age of 15 Braxton took his own life. It is believed that cyber-bullying may have been the cause.

Social media is now a part of the world culture and it can be used for good or evil; to build up or tear down. As Christians we are called to live distinctively different from the world and this should be evident in what we post or tweet. It is with this in mind and because Braxton believed in goal setting and list making that I introduce to you:

Braxton’s List for Social Media Conduct

1. If you can’t post something nice…ask yourself if you should post at all?

2. Don’t let momentary anger become a permanent post.

3. Remember, the people you want to attack has a family that feels their hurt.

4. Public people can have personal problems that the public doesn’t know. They may be closer to the edge than you know because you don’t know them. Stop before they drop.

5. God says “Vengeance is Mine” so it’s best to let God do best what He knows best to do.

6. Christians never have the right to be unkind, not even once. Mean posts about an individual multiple times is harassment.

7. Post above reproach. If in doubt, don’t. Be a building block and not a stumbling stone.

8. There are two sides to every story and the internet is not the best place to tell the difference between the two or the best place to settle the difference between the two.

9. It’s better not to post and let people think you’re a fool than to post and remove all doubt.

10. Nobody wins on the internet but lives and families can be lost because of it.

11. Satan is the accuser of the brethren, he doesn’t need our help.

12. Praying for our enemies accomplishes more than posting about them. Remember, because we pray for them doesn’t give us the right to post mean and hurtful things about them.

13. Believers are best dealt with by the local church, determining their salvation is the role of the Holy Spirit and not social media. If you don’t like how the local church handled the situation see #5.

Braxton’s life was short lived but it can be long remembered if we engage in cyber-building and stop cyber-bullying.

#stopcyberbullying

#BraxtonsList

*This article was originally posted by Christian Index  and used by permission.

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Les Prouty

Dr. Caner,

I hope this gets through in the comment section. First, I am deeply sorry for your loss. I don’t know you nor did I know your son. I’ve never had any direct contact with you or your family. But still, I wept and grieved along with you when I saw the news about Braxton. My heart is still heavy for you and your family.

I have five children ranging from 32 down to 19. I really can’t imagine the pain you all have been through. I do hope and pray that many will read what you’ve written here and take this list to heart. It is far past time for everyone, especially those of us who name the name of Christ, to radically re-think how we engage on the internet.

My prayers are still with you and may the God of all comfort pour His comfort over you all.

Les Prouty

Sandi Willoughby

I never met Braxton but I have watched him grow up in pictures and posts from his father AND he seemed like a wonderful son who really cared about people in general. Bullying is not good for anyone no matter what their age but especially not our children. Please stop and think before post or say anything!!!

Stephanie Marrone

Dr. Caner,

Thank you for honoring your son by posting this list. I am deeply sorry for your loss; I found out about your loss of Braxton through a friend of a friend of Jill’s. I am continuing to send love, light, and healing to you, Jill, and Braxton’s spirit.

volfan007

Evertyone, Braxton was not Emir’s son. He was Ergun’s son, which of course made Emir his uncle. Just wanted to clear that up. Also I’m still shaking my head at what’s happening, today, on the internet….and, some of it in the name of Jesus. It’s sad. It’s wrong. It’s bad. I just can’t imagine someone being so obsessed with trying to bring someone down, that they go after the man’s son…..just unbelievable and ridiculous. My prayer is that God will use this tragic thing that has happened to the Caner family to be a wake up call to Believers and their conduct on the internet.

God bless the Caner family, as they go thru this horrible time. May God give them extra grace.

David

Lydia

Thanks for sharing this as the entire situation was beyond the pale. I am controlling my fingers from writing what I would really like to say. I cannot imagine the pain and loss the Caners will live with everyday but also clinging to the promise they will see him again.

I guess I am old school. I always thought people’s children were off limits no matter what the issue with the parent. I was wrong as my own were bullied by “Christian” adults. If your children/teens are not “safe” ( emotionally, mentally, etc) interacting other “Christian” adults, perhaps they aren’t? I am not sure what other conclusion to come to anymore. Not all sins are equal and we adults ARE responsbile for our behavior and what we model as believers to kids/teens..They simply do not have the developed brain and coping mechanisms for that sort of brutal psychological assault. My own kids, after the adult “Christian” bullying, vascillated from fear to anger to grief and back to fear. It is cruel. A sort of black psych ops on those not able to handle it. You better bet I am watching things very closely. I am going to share Braxton’s list with them.

I know of another situation within a Christian school the adult bullying of teens on social media ended up in the hands of law enforcement and lawyers!

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